he is not that good looking....

i was out with a friend just now and we were talking about him starting to see this guy and the conversation goes...

so, are you seeing anyone now?

well.... it's only been a few outings... usually just over a meal...

ok, omg, tell me everything... a pic maybe?

he is not that good looking...

ok bitch stop.

what?

it's like you lost the war before you left the castle. it is quite funny to think of the stuffs we say about people. i mean, i think i too did use those exact same words before, when i was younger of course..

but like why?

is it because we say that to tone down the hopes of our friends before actually seeing the person? so like when our friends do think that he is hot or what, it will be like a good thing? -.-

or is it because he or she is really not that good looking in our own opinion?

but why must we say it like that?

and im guessing that as time passes, the so called "excuse" or silly "statement" will be a one of the factors that will determine whether the relationship will work or not.. and in the end you will feel like he is really not that good looking enough for you!

so when someone ask you how is your date like, say: oh he is gorgeous!

beauty eye beholder thing, you get it. and if your friends think otherwise then fuck it, youre the one dating him, not them lol..

my own moral of the story is that i feel that positive reaffirmation, reinforcement, praise and recognition is very important in a relationship. Whether it is the initial phase or maybe even years or decade down the line.

Agree?
tuls