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Wednesday, September 17, 2014

relationships are learning foundations of life..

i know some people can't be alone for too long, they keep searching until they settle down with someone..

at desperate times they do settle down with the next best option, with the next person who shows interest, but they may or may not turn out to be the person whom you are looking for..

i know some people live by the single rule, afraid of commitment and being too attached to something or someone.. it could be either because they experienced the pain of losing someone so badly or its just their own principle in life..

but love, sometimes it comes to you without you searching for it..

guess what, im in a relationship now!!

omgosh really!?!? congrats...

yea!! :) haahhahaha...

im so jealous!!

sometimes people use relationship to make themselves feel better or special..

well it does that to certain people..


being in a relationship sometimes gives us an excuse to turn down other requests...

hey, you wanna go out later?

nah, im meeting my boyfriend later..

nah, im going out for a movie with my partner..

im going on a holiday, wont be back till xxx....

but if we are in a relationship for the wrong reason, it wont last...

friends that you ditched because you wanna spend time with your bf would think twice before meeting you up again after your break up thinking that you only come to them when you have an issue..

recently ive come to realize that what the old idiom saying "Life is a learning process" is really true and it applies to relationships as well..

i believe that each relationship teaches us something..

sometimes we dont get what we want from a relationship..

you desire happiness and love, it gives you loneliness and hell..

you yearn for cuddles and hugs, it gives you pain and aches..

you want stability and comfort, it ruins your social life and your empties your pockets..

sometimes it stings, sometimes it hurts...

whatever it is, you will need to try to see the good side of things! :)

there is a solution for every problem encountered along the way..
some people embrace it and tackle it head on... well good for you..
some people is afraid of the outcome and just shy away hoping that problems will go away on its own..

whatever you do, there is always a choice...

there is no such thing as a right or wrong choice, the only difference would be the pro-s and con-s of each decision you make..

whatever you decide, never regret it, if you think its not appropriate, you can always choose to act again..

different people may reach differently to what you do and to what they think is correct..

it takes two to tango, as long as youve done your best in trying to fix the problem, you shouldnt be sad if the ending doesnt go well, take it as a lesson and imply and improve on your next relationship...

we see couples that are together for 10 years, 12 years, some 20 years and so on, what do you think makes them be together for so long?

a few years down in a relationship, your life would start to become a routine, it will be boring and dull if we just let it go on like that..

maturity and understanding of two people will have a deeper role in sustaining a relationship..

people change as time goes by, even while you are in a relationship, you will need to adapt to life and live around it if you are living together, some changes are mild and develop over the years, some are instant crushes that requires more understanding and trust for both to fully comprehend the situation..

everyone has their own limits of accepting changes in life, some drastic ones that are too much too handle would sometimes end a relationship there and then... I've experienced first hand when one of my previous boyfriends turned religious overnight :)

sometimes we wonder why something like that would happen to someone..

sometimes we wonder why did he chose to break up with us..

does he not love me anymore?

am i not good enough for him...

every negative thought you can think of would surround you like a dark aura.. depression and fear isnt far behind..

if we could only understand the situation from a different angle, it wouldnt be that bad after all..

think it on a positive side, maybe the other person is in the way obstructing you advancing to the next level in your life..

maybe he realize youre more like a friend in bed than someone he would wanna be with for the rest of his life? if thats the case, youre so lucky to have get out from that relationship because you are wasting your time and his time. most of the time people arent that lucky to find out cos humans tend to be selfish.. and by the time you find out it will already be too late..

there are so many reasons one can come up with.. but the real question you should ask yourself..

are you happy being with him? yes.

good, thats it..

if there is a but behind the yes, then you might wanna think again the real reason you are together..

someone use "not enough time" as an excuse just to no breakup with someone..

yes you are quite comfortable with Mr X because you are very busy with your working life, you have no social life because you work 10am-10pm and on occasional saturdays, he on the other hand has his hands full with his job as well so you are both kinda like "ok" with the routine and just get on with life as it is cos you have no time to search for other people..bla bla bla...

fine by me.. fine by him..

fine. as long as youre happy.

dont commit to a relationship because you feel nice being with him for the first few times meeting with him..

try to get to know him, not to say that every hot, nice and single guy is a serial killer or what but.. haha.. you'll never know.. im just kidding! lol..

but you might never know that he might still be full of nerves the first few times you guys met but he is actually a pretty decent and cool guy after overcoming it? haha... dont judge the book by its cover! but yes sometimes we choose by looking at the cover! oh well... we are human after all....

to end on a messy note, if you were in a relationship no matter how long or short it is, whether its a five day thing, a summer fling, or a few years kinda commitment, you are collecting experience points like how pokemon collects EXP from battling other pokemons and in this case your partner would be the other pokemon.

if they are rare types or powerful types, you will gain more exp when you defeat them, if they are only common ones, then you will still collect exp point no matter what but just lesser.. anyhow, with all the exp points in life, you will level up each time and be a better person with much more understanding in life and how you view life, your life and life around you! if only you would let yourself see it..


  1. whoa...this is a long one to read haha...

    1. lol... hopefully its not boring! lol

  2. wonder how long it took u to finish writing it =D

    It's easy to keep going on with what we used to than admitting things going in wrong direction and pull the brake since it will cause friction and the tyre might catch fire.

    1. erm.. maybe 15 mins? haha... it just comes and everything just pours out... lol

  3. The pokemon analogy (can't believe it has the word anal) is not entirely applicable lah haha! The bit on experience gaining is very true, but defeating them? hahahahaha they shouldn't be the opponent right? :P

    1. well its just a comparison, lol, as long as people get it la... on the collecting points part but not the defeating them part.. there are always TM such as ATTRACT etc to be used in the fight! :) and if youre level 1 and your opponent is level 100, it will take a long time for you to defeat him and as long as he doesnt attack you, you wont die too, and vice versa la.. just think it that way lor.. lolol