the below reply is a general reply to the topic and not just to zhenyu27 alone
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all the above in bold and underline touches the side of feminine..
whats your definition or gay?
whats your definition of a sissy?
what does feminine mean to you?
ask yourself :)
its a rather direct question..
now after answering all those... tell me,
how do you define normal?
to some of you normal means gay, means all the other straight people are weird.. vice versa..
to the straight people, or to the society, we are still the "special" group, the abnormal one, the weird ones... the minority group..
and being feminine/sissy in a minority group is like the minority in a minority...
in the end they are still gay..
they are no different than any other gays out there..
if youre gay, the straights will still see you as an eyesore no matter if youre macho or sissy, if youre gay, you are wrong..
me, i used to hate sissies.. i was like.. cant they act more manlier? but after making friends with them when i was working in parkson(olden days), they are actually a nice bunch of people, they are born that way.. we will just need to understand and accept them the way they are..
what if a straight person comes to you: why are you so gay? cant you act more straight?
will you feel insulted? likewise.. you can be how open but deep inside there will definitely be some uneasiness within..
its the same when you talk about them..
if you see a bunch of sissy gays being bullied by some normal folks, do you say: oh padan muka those sissy guys? do you? anyhow they are still gay, and we are all the same.. we cant run away from being gay..
the natural thing to do is to stand up and fight back, if i was there, i will.. and if you guys out there.. who cant stand sissy gays, its your own opinion, its your judgement, no one can say anything about it..
if thats the case, you lack of understanding, you lack of qualities of acceptance, your mind is still close up..
in a relationship, there is always adaptation, tolerance and sacrifices to make..
in a society too, you need to adapt with the view of the society, tolerate one another and the sacrifices you need to make in order to do both..
to all feminine gay guys out there,
tuls love ya!! :)