t u l s

t u l s

Sunday, April 3, 2011

mature?

when is the right age to act and be mature?

when youre with your loved ones, you tend to put the mature side of you at rest and just be yourself and be comfortable... do you do that? i do that alot..

but do you need to be mature in a relationship? yes of course, like duh...

how do you consider mature?

what if im a serious and mature when im doing my job and studies but when it comes to relationship, im as childish as a 10 year old.. is that acceptable?

yes, you may say if you love somebody you must accept that person for who he is blah blah blah but what if he remains childish for the rest of his life? as in in relationship.. should he change? 

can you stand your partner if he is fucking serious and mature when he is not with you and you like that side of him but when youre together he is that shallow simple whatever guy thats jovial and fun..

how mature do you want your man to be?

in which or what sense does he need to be mature at/in a relationship?




22 comments:

  1. I'd prefer someone who can be versatile. Someone who can be mature when he has to be and someone who acts childish when its appropriate. All this in a relationship. Not when he's with others. I mean, he can be whatever he wants with others. But in a relationship, he should be versatile. Just go with the flow kinda thing rather than sticking to being super serious all the time or being childish all the time. =]

    ReplyDelete
  2. The other half should be mature as in mature in solving problems, mature in taking care of his life, friends and family. So basically, for me, being mature means being a responsible person.

    And that's the same for me inside a relationship. But I'm not saying he cannot be childish. Being childish at times is what makes you young at heart.

    ReplyDelete
  3. Well, follow the flow, you liked him for who he is. If ever the word "if" occur, "doubt" appeared. You know quite well how a small "doubt" can affect a relationship.

    From my point of view, the more "perfect" one want his partner to be, meaning he is still not ready to accept the other half's "imperfection". Think over, maybe maturity is not just the way one behave but instead on how one thinks and also the acceptance toward things (or maybe tolerance).

    ReplyDelete
  4. i like A's comment. Versatile.

    Don't think I can stand someone who is serious/mature all the time. Sometimes people act silly to cheer other people up, it's quite endearing. I don't think anyone is genuinely immature.

    But also cannot be silly all the time, such as when discussing important issues in the relationship. If that person still acts like a kid, then i will strangle him. :P

    ReplyDelete
  5. I believe that maturity isn't directly related to age, but it does grow with time, because it's not an innate trait. It's something we learn along the way. For a lack of measurement, people associate it with age, and most of us accept that.

    Au contraire, the opposite of maturity isn't being childish. It's simply the nature of acting inappropriately... or... immature lo. :P

    I think that as a relationship matures, so do the people in them. In the sense that you know your counterpart well enough to react accordingly. It's why some people fight about nothing all the time and remain deeply in love; and some do the silly things just because they can. It's not being immature. It's being lovingly honest with each other.

    ReplyDelete
  6. There's always a child in us no matter how old we are but I think it's wise to know when you need to be serious and when you can let the child in you come out to have some fun.

    Once again, cute drawing. Hehehe...

    ReplyDelete
  7. maturity is relative. Don't you think?

    let's say a bubbly person knows his direction in life but at the same time living his inner child; to his relatively boring (stable) partner, he could be a little boy.

    ReplyDelete
  8. At least 1 has to be mature... but being mature doesnt mean u cant act childish.. juz like ur Tulsy motto, know the limits. that makes a difference.

    so does bubu get to whack u often then? since kids are meant to be whacked.. =p

    ReplyDelete
  9. So you're the little kid in the relationship? :)

    ReplyDelete
  10. I think when we are in a relationship, naturally over thinking is switched to being mature.

    The real question is, can both parties shower the newly formed relationship with love and wisdom, this making it a mature relationship ?

    ReplyDelete
  11. 10 years old kid kenot pat thor!

    ReplyDelete
  12. i like the photo u draw...
    big bringing the small....
    in relationship, be mature is good but childish can also be a choice for it...

    ReplyDelete
  13. i'd rather be childish around the partner instead of matured. Maturity are only meant for no-fun stuffs, like dealing with laundries, work, studies, and all the shits that come with them. Why be so coped up around someone who you can be intimate and happy with? maybe its the toll of pressure on me as the eldest son that i wished to let go and be childish around my partner la.. but I'd rather be the kiddy one, and let the other half do the matured work. Plus, being childish= no responsibilities and all fun!

    ReplyDelete
  14. hahaha u are the immature one meh o.0.
    cnt be always that mature lah, if not too boring oso right...being childish is fun!

    ReplyDelete
  15. Mature is a product of mental growth and change in point of view, which bring the ability of solving , or at least, facing the problem..Its all depend on how much one had gone through in one's life.Mature is an important subject in relationship, well,a people with mature mind will know how to care others feeling.A tinch of childishness is needed, as pepper of life.. haha

    ReplyDelete
  16. Versatile is the key....and time to be matured, must act mature. Somehow, if u like him due to his maturity and he acted childish (not once, but always), it could be a turn-off...

    ReplyDelete
  17. need to be mature in appropriate times and need to be childish in appropriate times also,can't be mature/childish all the time:)

    ReplyDelete
  18. For me there is no appropriate age to be mature , if u could mature when ur 12 years old good for you .
    I think being childish at times is ok but what I could not stand is being naive , some guys are just to mentally expensive to maintain not because they are not mature (the lin mao all panjang edy lol) but too naive.

    ReplyDelete
  19. lol , in a totally unrelated topic , i like mature guys on bed , they are way more "experienced"

    ReplyDelete
  20. im the childish one by the way.. i like me being childish but i guess i cant be childish all the time cant i.. haha.. maybe the fact that i cant/dint manja enough in my past relationship made me act this way? haha.. oh well.. thanks everyone for the lovely comments.. each and everyone of you have your own perception of maturity! yay you guys! hopefully a small change would make bubu happier :) bubu's not searching for perfection, but maybe a more understanding me :) muacks him..

    @simonsez1 ~ experienced and maturity doesnt always co relate i guess.. size does matter, no matter how experience you are, no size, no feel, not syoky.. random much but yea.. thanks for visiting :) kihihi...

    @PFJ ~ im 21!

    @kidz ~ i always whack bubu wor.. why like that arr?

    ReplyDelete
  21. Erm, then maybe it means u r big bully kinda of kid.. =p

    ReplyDelete
  22. @kidz ~ nola!!! eeeeeeeee!! im not that evil!!

    ReplyDelete